Do you ever get frustrated with people? If you want to never get frustrated with someone again ... check this out. It works like you can't even believe. > https://www.riversideretreats.org/riverside-2023-10-oct-followthrough#section--16160
On Fri, Oct 27, 2023 at 7:26 AM Ken Boersma <ken@boersmafamily.com> wrote:
"Your Welcome" :)
I think the frustration was about a 1/3 rd of the way through the web site.
Mark ~ Thanks. OK ... give this a try and see if this provides the vaccine to help you "work out your salvation" ... "work out your frustration" ... the Bible interestingly enough doesn't say "feel out your salvation." Hmmm that would be a great Bible study to see how many times "feelings" are even mentioned in the Bible. :-) That is coming from my gut, not my analytic side. But wouldn't the point of frustration probably be different depending on how much the person has been exposed to your stories, perspectives and models?
Mark ~ Tom Kunz has a vaccine for that as well. He becomes childlike and seeks to learn / see something different each time. Thanks Tom! :-)
I wonder if people get completely overwhelmed by you and that is why the "black out".
Mark ~ People have said that they hate being around me because "I make them feel stupid." Alan Petlin taught something to his girls that I think my parents may not have taught my three brothers?
The truth seems to be that you can't make anyone feel stupid, you can only help reveal their stupidity.
I think how you overwhelm people may be for very different reasons and ways, like:
- the title wave of information via emails, web sites, visual models. They may feel "over their head" as a result or feel like they are drowning so they get as far away from you to stop feeling like they are drowning to protect themselves.- your relentlessness ( you might care more about a person doing something they say they want to do more than they care about it.)
Mark ~ Ken, maybe if people would stop investing all their energy into their own feelings ... maybe then they would have a little time / energy to have empathy for others? Without question this is true. When someone says they WANT deep relationships, I'm stupid enough or maybe just care enough that I believe that that falls in my life vision to help them either get what they SAY they want to to "Just Stop Saying It." This is one reason investing a lot of the 7 T's into Voice Of Integrity. I think a lot of the issues in today's world is people don't have integrity with themselves and their own minds. - your energy ( you "overload" their circuits) they can't handle your energy and they "short-out"
Mark ~ Yepper, hope I can get to them before "life" gets to them because life doesn't seem to care and ... well .. Kevin King had three strokes and lots of other messy / hard things happened, that I wonder maybe didn't have to happen? I get it though ... when ... well ... maybe ... let's say a brother does something that you just can't forgive ... he questions your competency ... well ... what you have invested your entire life into ... it's who you have become ... like if you should be a pastor, or if your sister-in-law who has her elementary education degree is better at taxes than you as a CPA are, or if you have a masters degree in technology and you can't figure out how to get technology to work in 9 months and someone from India can get it working in a week and your brother questions your ability in technology ... no ... no ... no ... we don't want to talk about Bruno ... :-) Maybe Ken ... if people were to work hard at KNOWING what they were put on this planet for vs. all the FEELINGS that come up about "how maybe I've wasted my life" ... maybe ... Ken, just maybe people who actually BE SIGNIFICANT vs. seeking to FEEL significant? - your "confidence" - they are not used to the level of confidence that you bring and so they are skeptical, dismissive and don't believe and ultimately "decide" you are "whacked", and then they turn you out.
Mark ~ Yes ... that is often the case and it would not be kind (I have done ONE unkind thing this year so I don't want to do another one) to share that I'm relieved when they tune me out so I can then focus on finding others who maybe have never heard and are actually desiring to learn, to change, to grow ... to have truly deep relationships vs. feelings which aren't true. Just some of my thoughts on this matter. I have added a few people because I thought it might be "helpful" to do so.
Mark ~ Thanks. I see that you may be missed some people that you care deeply about so I added a few of those people for yours and their benefit. "You're welcome." :-) Ken